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There’s something I’ve been thinking …

It started with a post I shared on Instagram — a simple idea about how the same words can land completely differently depending on the energy behind them.  

And it's a clip taken right from a Mary Tyler Moore show - a show that many of us grew up with (making it extra fun to watch … )

Most people think longevity is about living longer.

But the real question is:

What do those extra years actually feel like?

Because longevity, at its core, is two things:

Lifespan — how many years we live
Healthspan — how many of those years we feel well, capable, and fully able to live our lives

And if you ask me, healthspan is where it really matters. (And in many cases when you focus on improving health span, lifespan tends to follow).

In my mindset sessions with clients, I often ask a simple question:

What does health actually mean to you?

Most people pause.
Some say energy. Some say feeling good. Some say freedom.

The dictionary defines health as the absence of disease.

But I like to think about it differently:

Health is the ability to live your life — and your dreams — fully.

We are living in a moment of unprecedented access to health information.

 Every day there are podcasts, books, research summaries, Instagram posts, reels, newsletters, documentaries, and conversations about what we should be eating, how we should be moving, how to sleep better, manage stress, and age well.

 And of course there are people like me — sharing ideas, research, and experiences in the hope that something might help someone feel better — physically, mentally, and emotionally. 

 But the reality is that this landscape now includes a huge range of voices.

Doctors.
Nutritionists.
Exercise physiologists.
Fitness trainers.
Health coaches.
Biohackers.
Wellness influencers.
And everyday people who have discovered something that worked for them and feel passionate about sharing it.

Many of these voices are thoughtful and well-intentioned. Some are deeply trained in the science. Others are speaking primarily from personal experience.

Which leads to a very real question:

With all of this information coming at us — how do we know what to trust, what actually matters, and what is worth acting on?

December doesn’t need to be about fixing or overhauling your health. This reflection explores how small signals from the body offer useful information — and why paying attention now can support strength, energy, and independence for decades to come.

For years, “healthy” meant fat-free everything. Then it was low-carb. Then keto. Then fasting.

We were told to log endless miles of cardio for heart health.
Now we know that strength training is one of the most powerful tools we have for longevity.

And for me personally, fasting has been one of those areas I’ve had to rethink. 

Many health professionals I respect promote longer fasts, and yes, there are powerful benefits. But for midlife bodies, the risk of muscle loss is real  - and that’s not a trade-off I’m willing to make. 

So I reframed my approach: I now lean into something simple and sustainable - a 12-hour overnight fast, from dinner to breakfast. 

No extremes. Just something that works for the long haul.

These kinds of shifts … this practice of reframing … show up everywhere.

In our health. In our relationships. In how we see the world.

I just returned from two magical weeks in Maine, my favorite place, where we celebrated the most special wedding of all - - 

my daughter’s, held at her childhood summer camp. 

The days were filled with family, friends, and unforgettable moments.

What surprised me most was how much joy I found in the pre-wedding “DIY” projects … the very things that had worried me the most beforehand. 

I’d pictured stress, endless to-dos, and projects going sideways. 

Instead, painting signs, labeling rocks, folding napkins with fern fronds (from two ferns that traveled from my porch to Maine and back again!), and making more floral arrangements than I can count turned out to be sooo fun and even grounding. 

One of the highlights? My 65-year-old bachelor cousin carefully tucking fern fronds into place settings - it was proof that everyone can get into the spirit when you’re working side by side.

As wonderful as it was to soak up every moment, it’s also nice to be back home, shifting into what fall will look like. 

For me, that means resetting after two weeks of late nights, too much ice cream, and maybe more wine than I’d normally have (though I’m convinced all the laughter canceled that out!).